In which I fail my roll against snark
Dom women are totally confident and in control of their sexuality! Dom women are proof that BDSM isn’t sexist! And porn isn’t harmful! It’s all just good clean fun! It could NEVER be that you’re actually looking at a picture of a CHILD who is ENSLAVED while you’re getting your rocks off. Oh no, porn actresses are there CONSENSUALLY. They get paid for it! They are so lucky to have the jobs they do!
What has always struck me about the whole argument that professional dominatrix women are proof that BDSM allows for gender free role switching ignores the fact that, just as in all other forms of prostitution, men are paying her to do what they want. In this case, they are paying for the FANTASY that they aren’t really in charge. They aren’t REALLY doing what she wants. They are PRETENDING that what they really want is what she really wants. Then they say throwing a few hundred bucks at her makes it all okay. They walk away scott-free and then she gets the reputation for being a sexually voracious, out of control, bad woman.
Out of the professional scene it is the same, just without money. Dom women always seem to end up doing what fits sub men’s sexual fantasies. Don’t sit there and try to talk down to me like I don’t know what I’m talking about as some outsider academic with my head in the clouds either – I lived in the BDSM culture in 3 different states in 2 different regions of the country for OVER FIFTEEN YEARS.
Anyway – here is what brought this on, the current highlighted atrocity of the day against a little girl.
KANSAS CITY, Missouri (AP) — Federal prosecutors have unsealed an indictment accusing a man and woman of training the woman’s child to be a dominatrix, selling her sexual services and photographing some of the acts.
U.S. Attorney John Wood said the case is unusual in that a parent has been charged with the commercial sex trafficking of his or her own minor child.
Todd B. Barkau, 35, of New York state, and the 44-year-old mother were charged in the seven-count indictment. They once lived together in Blue Springs, Missouri, where the sex business was said to have been run.
“Barkau obtained control of a 12-year-old girl and he groomed, trained and forced her to become a sexual dominatrix,” Wood said in Kansas City on Monday.
Barkau was arrested near Niagara Falls and had a court appearance Saturday in Buffalo, New York, Wood said.
The mother was arrested Friday in Dallas, Texas. Messages left at the Northern District of Texas court late Monday were not immediately returned.
Don Ledford, a spokesman for Wood, said that as far as he knew, neither defendant had been assigned attorneys.
The mother’s name is not being published to protect the identity of the daughter, who is now 20.
Federal prosecutors, who investigated the case for nearly two years, have filed a motion to detain both suspects in federal custody without bail.
The indictment says Barkau began training the girl in 2000, when she was 12, and forced her to engage in sex acts with him and with other men. According to the indictment, he also had the girl watch pornography on the Internet as a teaching tool.
Barkau is accused of creating a business out of the couple’s Missouri home when the girl was 14 and marketing her as a 19- to 20-year-old dominatrix on the Internet for about two years.
The mother is charged with encouraging and participating in the venture, the indictment says.
Prosecutors will seek $80,000 the couple is accused of having made through sex trafficking, Wood said.
